*good friend, Melissa, and I at our best during home renovation time a couple years ago. Agree or disagree?
I have been pondering this quote for a couple days now. I try to be friendly with all, does that mean I am not a true friend to any? Is it possible to be both? Do others see me as friends with everyone, therefore they don't feel special to me? Hmmmmmmm.............
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I admire people who are "friends to all". It's a gift to be able to make everyone around you feel happy and accepted. That said, I think there's always those few special people who you have an even deeper connection to and I'm sure they know who they are.
Truthfully? When we moved there I really appreciated how warm and welcoming you were to me. As I hung around you I saw that you were that way with everybody (which is a great trait), but I wondered if you hung out with me because you liked me as a friend or just because you were friendly with everybody.
Em and em! thank you for your comments.
first em (emily w.), I think I agree with you that someone can be both.
second em, I am glad you are being truthful because this is exactly what I am wondering. I am nice and friendly to everyone but do people see that as fake? If they do then I don't get it. That is just my personality I suppose.
If I invite someone over for dinner one night and then someone else a couple nights later does that make the first one less special to me? It doesn't to me, but does it seem that way to others??? That is my question.
Is it better to invite all kinds of different people to your home or just the same people over and over???
I also feel like there are so many people that need friends and kindness that I feel like limiting my friendliness/kindness would be a shame.
I am still confused. Do people think I am fake because I am nice and if so, what am I faking?
ps - em, I was so happy to have you in the ward. I really thought we could become good friends. not that we can't still, but darn you and moving to utah! just kidding.
I disagree. I think one can be a friend to all. The quote leaves out the details, it assumes there is only one level of friendship. One can be friendly to everyone-- but have the select best friends too, ya know? It's different.
I LOVE and admire you, T, that you are so friendly to everyone.
I think that there are different levels of friendship. Not that we are still in middle school, but you can be friends with everyone and still have a few best friends. I don't think that makes you like the other friends less.
I do understand your predicament though. I often worry about leaving people out, or having someone be offended that they weren't included. I never want to leave anyone out. I am open to be friends with anyone who is willing!
I've wondered the same thing at times. I think it's true to a degree because there are levels of friendship. I think it's impossible to be GOOD friends with everyone. There will be those who are closer than others. It takes so much time and energy invested to develop quality relationships. you cannot do it with everyone. BUT that doesn't mean that you are not friends with others--it's a lighter friendship, not as strong a bond. huh? how about that? I'm such an east coaster. I'm gonna go think about it more now.
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